GOOD JOB or aka getting the GOODY!!

i have caught myself quite often lately saying this to Dieunika. every time i say it, i freeze! dang where is it coming from! she is working through so many emotions, and together we're trying to help her see we love her for who she is, to be herself, to stop being fake and doing "cute" to get approval and attention. i have to be better at my words!!! i have to stop and evaluate and take a good look in the mirror.

how are you with words?
how are you at allowing yourself to be _you_, the real you?